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" I am most proud of the longevity of my marriage, my children and my
Grandchildren. If you do not have that you are really not very much. "" Bob Newhart

Last week, we have the news that actor Jude Law cheated on his beautiful
Fiancee, actress Sienna Miller, his children with the nanny. The
History, the international headlines, was the subject of a special
"" Best Week Ever "" segment on the Today Show with Katie Couric.

BW expert Sherrod Small Law explains the behavior Katie. "" He is a
Man ', "he said.

This raises two questions: Are men programmed to cheat? And if a
Woman with Sienna Miller's assets can not keep a man faithful, what hope
Is it for the rest of us?

My answer to the first question is a definite no. Men are not
programmed to cheat, but every time someone comes and says they are
(I am thinking of Goldie Hawn in a recent interview People), the bar
is lowered. Start believing that women are men incapable of fidelity,
and they are expected to stop.

Men are capable of monogamy. If you want a monogamous relationship,
expect monogamy. Do not make excuses, and not a man back after he
fool around with your best friend. It does not matter if you are
such as Sienna Miller, if you have a cheater back, you get a cheater. (It is
also not a good idea to poach other women men, you do not walk away
with a price, you know, you get a man of your
Heart of a day).

To prove my point, a retrospective of Bob Newhart Career aired last
PBS week, two days after the revelation about knucklehead Jude Law.
Well, maybe you think Bob Newhart is an old man, not very sexy, not a Jew
Law, but in 1963, when he married his wife, Ginny, he was not
bad (and he makes people laugh, a real turn-on).

A large part of the show with his marriage and his devotion to his
Wife and children. At one point, Newhart and his wife were
Meeting from the audience at an awards ceremony looking wrinkled
and in love. (So that you wonder if old Bob cheated on Ginny while he
on the street, he organized his schedule so that she and the children
could be with him.)

Another example of a happily monogamous man is Aerosmith's Joe Perry.
He and his wife Billie married in 1985. Since then, he did not leave
Home, unless she is on board, and he is still on to write their songs (check
his new CD, "" Joe Perry ").

Is not that what we all want when we get married? Be Loved
for us to pursue goals with the people we love, too
allowed to age gracefully with him to get happy on the table
he 20, 40 and 60 years?

So, set your bar high. Forget the men, like Jude Law. Hold for a
Bob Newhart or Joe Perry. They exist, and you deserve no less.

Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Marry and bring the man of your dreams." "Sign up for their free newsletter and get http://www.marrysmart.com details about their upcoming free tele-class to a man who is worthy of you for a change.